Tough Talk Tuesday: Protect Your Aura

 Everyone talks about how lonely you’ll be on your come-up, but I didn’t believe it until I experienced it firsthand. You start noticing things about your life and environment that never stood out before. It kinda reminds me of when Neo took the red pill in The Matrix. For me, the shift started when everything began to feel boring and repetitive. Especially with dating, I’ve hit a new breaking point. Like seriously, what’s up with men wanting to waste your time and love-bomb you for three months straight? Is anybody okay??? I had major déjà vu one day while chilling with a “vibe,” thinking, are men all the same? But instead of spiraling, I charged it to the game and realized it was time to move differently.

If you’re feeling disconnected or uninspired, take that as your sign: something has to change. You should like what you do. You should wake up feeling grateful that you get to build a life you love. This is your life, you can make it whatever you want it to be. But who and what you take with you on that journey? That’s one of the most important details.

You have to become intentional about every decision you make. Act like the president of your own life. Diva mode should be in full effect when it comes to you. If something falls into your hands and it’s not exactly what you want, be prepared to walk away and never look back.

Now, when it comes to people, that can be a little harder. I’ve met so many who are great at pretending, but intuition never lies. If you get a weird vibe from someone, trust it. Don’t investigate. Every single time I ignored that gut feeling, I ended up wishing I had listened to myself. I’ve realized that some people saw my light and tried to dim it so I’d never see it for myself. Those are not the people you want on your journey, they’ll drain you dry. As a recovering people-pleaser, setting boundaries with toxic folks has actually been fun. Once you start saying “no” regularly, you’ll wish you’d done it sooner. You have to clear that people-pleasing energy from your aura, narcissists can smell it a mile away. The secret? Always put yourself first, no matter how anyone feels. And stop caring who likes you. Sometimes when you fly, people are gonna hate, that's just life. I made peace with that a long time ago. Anyway, I probably overshared a little too much on this one, but that’s what Tuesdays are for, right? I’ll talk to you beautiful people tomorrow.

Remember, no matter what, we must maintain our aura.